tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post4286864390109343123..comments2024-03-27T16:59:55.368-05:00Comments on Fantastic Voyage: Money In The Ba-Ya- Yank....Or NotSusiewearsthepantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-33393009362821224562008-05-30T23:10:00.000-05:002008-05-30T23:10:00.000-05:00Your story reminds me that I am lucky that my ex p...Your story reminds me that I am lucky that my ex pays his bills on time. My mom never got a dime from my father either.<BR/><BR/>Teaching your child about money - it's never too early, and that is a good thing. My parents didn't do so hot, really...Farrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01322144788826667458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-1786871862990252862008-05-18T09:13:00.000-05:002008-05-18T09:13:00.000-05:00Karen-You are right, there are no consequences. Ev...Karen-You are right, there are no consequences. Even with my child support order, when he stopped paying, they told me there was nothing they could do.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-11212838657707946542008-05-17T23:16:00.000-05:002008-05-17T23:16:00.000-05:00This is a can of worms. In Mississippi they put fl...This is a can of worms. In Mississippi they put flake Dad's on billboards. In california they do garnish wages and take tax returns. It really send s the kids a bad message they are the ones who get hurt. I didn't get any support from my daughter's Dad. An occasional little pittance. He tried to come in an be the big Daddy Kahuna when she was grown and she saw him a couple of times and then told him to forget it. He tried to trip her out about HIS feelings. Big turkey. Personally I think these guys should be castrated. Why shouldn't they skip out if there are no consequences? <BR/>I can't believe they closed your case, are they nuts?<BR/>We helped Piglet get a checking account too. she just lost some money due to overdrafts. She didn't realize they charge for that. whew what a mess. i thought we had set it up for her savings to be connected and they wanted $5 for every transaction. We closed that account. That bank was getting greedy. Hard lesson to learn but she knows now. <BR/> Shopping and not getting anyhting extra? is there anyone out there that disciplined? It ain't me.Karen Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05892103639142471595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-81475724462729258402008-05-17T23:07:00.000-05:002008-05-17T23:07:00.000-05:00Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. It re...Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. It really helps to know that I am not the only one going through something like this.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-82544630195328840482008-05-17T21:33:00.000-05:002008-05-17T21:33:00.000-05:00My dad disappeared when I was three, and never sen...My dad disappeared when I was three, and never sent a check or even a letter to me until I was eighteen years old. I guess by that time he thought he wouldn't get in trouble for the money or something? Anyway, my mother went after him then, and told him that unless he sent her at least half of what he owed her, she would drag him into court (he lived in another state the entire time I was growing up) and get it that way. He paid. So, yes, it's enforcible across state lines, and yes, you should go after him. If he honestly has concerns about how you would spend the money, there are ways around that, like a trust fund for her that will be accessible by only her, and only when she's 18. He could contribute to a 529 college program in her name. Hell, some states are even beginning to garnish wages over this stuff! But, you need to do what you can to get that money, because even if you don't need it now, she would benefit from it in the future. Also, from experience, I know that it would be better for her emotionally to know that her father contributed to her future if at all possible.<BR/><BR/>It sure sounds like you're doing a wonderful job with the girls, and congrats on that checking account!!! What a big moment for her, and you, too!Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-70325540471723897682008-05-17T16:08:00.000-05:002008-05-17T16:08:00.000-05:00Trudie-I'm with you on that. Said father has expre...Trudie-I'm with you on that. Said father has expressed interest in having my daughter visit him out of state this summer. I told him that when he starts acting like a responsible parent, i.e. paying child support and maintaining contact on a regular basis that I would consider a visit. I am sure neither one of these things will happen.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-33466843659668347442008-05-17T14:30:00.000-05:002008-05-17T14:30:00.000-05:00Thanks for visiting my blog.I went through the no-...Thanks for visiting my blog.<BR/>I went through the no-support-payment from the Dad for over 10 years when my son was growing up. Things weren't rosy at times, but a bonus was that he had no say in the upbringing of my son!Allmyckehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618880904953965190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-18245520806926756662008-05-17T12:52:00.000-05:002008-05-17T12:52:00.000-05:00Mental P mama-Not far away! Murfreesboro.Mental P mama-Not far away! Murfreesboro.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-8248053464980921112008-05-17T12:40:00.000-05:002008-05-17T12:40:00.000-05:00Hi Susie--Thanks for visiting. I feel for you ......Hi Susie--Thanks for visiting. I feel for you ... the deadbeat dad id a real epidemic in out world, and it is heartbreaking. They think they are punishing their former partner, and the real victim is the child. I hope the laws are easier for you there. By the way, I grew up in Tennessee (Franklin). Where are you?Mental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-25964082334800560162008-05-17T11:36:00.000-05:002008-05-17T11:36:00.000-05:00mmmm....A free butt whipping. I don't think I can ...mmmm....A free butt whipping. I don't think I can rightly turn down an offer like that. How far away are you from Michigan?Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5806221757599098019.post-63438004784135186092008-05-17T11:34:00.000-05:002008-05-17T11:34:00.000-05:00I'm excited for your daughter and her first checki...I'm excited for your daughter and her first checking account.<BR/>We gave our son a debit card when he started driving - accessible to ONE account that has A VERY SMALL balance. And since we can bank online, we check in on him all the time. So far, no misuse of the debit card. I think it's great to give kids financial responsibility as young as possible. I was not taught about money and I certainly hope to do better with my kids.<BR/><BR/>As for the deadbeat dad...I hate deadbeat dads. <BR/>I was just noticing how HUGE my sons arms and shoulders are getting from his football training, and he's one of the smallest of his gang. I could send them on a hunt for Mr. Deadbeat Dad and they could um...make him see things a little more clearly. They could also practice their wrestling moves on him. This would all be free of charge of course 'cause they'd be doing it for fun.<BR/><BR/>Or you could go on Dr. Phil. Dr. Phil would give him a good ole' verbal beat down. <BR/><BR/>I understand what you mean about deciding whether it's worth your energy. You have a great attitude.HWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09260566913424446132noreply@blogger.com