OK-Here is a question. Have you ever had someone in your life who is emotionally high maintenance and needy? And are they really this way or are they just self centered? There are apparently people in this world that think that everything revolves around them. Someone is not being nice to them, or someone never calls them, or they are being mistreated in some way. If you are one of these people, I have a news flash for you. The world does not revolve around you.
Neither I or anyone else I know, spends our time trying to come up with ways to please you. For that matter, neither do we sit around trying to think up ways to hurt your feelings. It is not my personal responsibility to see to your emotional well being. That's YOUR job. If you feel hurt or left out it is YOUR responsibility to express that to those around you. I have a suggestion. Call and invite some of the people you think are ignoring you over for lunch. Make the first move. If you are one of these people, it is not the job of everyone else in the world to keep the relationship going. YOU could take the first step.
I know it's scary. Maybe if you put forth a little effort, everyone would see that you are trying. All we see now is a lot of talk. And the fact that you hold US completely accountable for having a relationship with YOU. You put forth NO EFFORT what so ever, then blame everyone else for your lonely state. Get off your butt and do something about it. Quit blaming all of us for the way you feel about yourself. We all want to be your friend, but all you do is bring people down and point out everything that is wrong with them. YOU my friend, are not perfect either. The Bible says, "For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God". That includes Y-O-U.
Sorry if I seem harsh. Everyone is tired of the blame you place on others for your general lack of happiness. Sorry buddy, that's a burden I simply do not have to take on.
No one is going out of their way anymore to try to make you feel included. We have all done our part and yours too. From here on out, it's up to you. Take the focus off yourself and shift it to other people. You might just be surprised. Good Luck!
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Wait..where did you meet my mother and how are you brave enough to write this note to her?
I'm not sure if it's bravery or stupidity. I will probably be getting the wrath of this blog very soon. If I disappear you will know I got taken out.
Well this person must be a really bad person. Maybe this person has been pushed away so many times that they are scared of making the first move or made to feel like they should not be at any get togethers. Maybe this person has been hurt more than you know about. How can you talk about someone and how they feel unless you have walked in their shoes? Maybe this person has tried to have this relationship with some but was made to feel like that it was all for nothing. I hate to let you know this but the world does not revolve around you either and all your problems. How can you say this person is an unhappy person again if you have not walked in their shoes. If you have this much of a problem with this person why don't you say it to them rather than put it here. You seem to want to air all your dirty laundry here. I do not think this is the place to do that.
It's always excuses. That's exactly what I am talking about. Always blaming others instead of taking responsibility for his/her own actions. So what if this person has been hurt? We all have. That is not an excuse to push people away and to constantly make trouble where there is none. I have walked in those shoes. I know what it's like to feel isolated and to push others away. Ask anyone in my family how I used to push people away. You don't know whether I have walked in those shoes or not "Anonymous".
Well Maybe this person has also felt the pain of being pushed away or given the feelings coming from others of not wanting them there.
Maybe this person does truly feel they are not wanted around. You know sometimes word do not have to be said. Actions can show it all.
Obviously anonymous you are not willing to be open to the ideas or feelings of others. Obviously you don't care enough to put forth any effort. I really feel sorry for you. Yours will be lonely existence.
I don't know what this person has done to you to set you off like this. The way you talk and know their feelings , you must know this person. If you do why would you be writing everything here and not talk to them face to face? You made the commit that the world does not revolve around this person, well after reading your blogsyou seem to think it revolves around you. You even think employees of Wal-mart must make sure that they do everything to make you happy. Those people have bad days too. Also Blogging is not place to talk abbout you PMS or having an IUD placed in you. Honey the world does not revolve around you either.
You know.... maybe this person would love to be open about all of this and talk face to face. Which is the way it should have been handled in the first place. How would you have felt if you read a blog and it was about all the bad in you and nothing good? This is not the way to handle it.
Also you don't have to seem like such a snob in you replys to this person...unless this is the real you.
Your latest comment proves my point.
If your little blog post is for me to see...well I did. I thought you were different than this. Guess everything in your live..good or bad..you always have to post it.
I really thought you and I had a relationship. I guess the girls feel as their mother does.
I am sorry all of you felt you had to go out of your way to be nice when I was around. Also I AM SORRY for bringing everyone down.
I have been around you when you were upset with your sisters and you would do nothing but put them down. I also will not keep anything I here from you dad ever again.
I don't know why you say that I have never tried to have a relationship with any of you.If you guys need me to show it more Then tell me how and what you want me to do...then atleast I will know for sure. I also do't want anyone to ever go out of their way to make me feel wanted...But when I walk in with your dad you could atleast not look at me as though all of you wished I were not with him.
I have not blamed any of you for what you are calling my unhappiness.I don't know where you are getting your info. I am happy.If I do ever have a problem the Lord always helps me thru it. He helps with any burden I have. I do not want you to ever feel like you have to ever be burdened with any of it. You nor any one else.
Oh yes just I thought I would let you know that the world does not revolve around you either.
Not matter what you & your sisters feel about me..I still love all of you.
Good Luck to all of you too.
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