Kering Grace is my baby. Probably my last child as I don't even have the prospect of going on a date in the near future. Aside from being my baby, she is also a drama queen. I do not use that expression lightly. She has been that way ever since she was really little. I remember the days when ANY sign of ANY skin being broken was just cause for a bandage.
At first I blew it off her just being little and wanting the attention. I remember the time she fell and told me she thought her leg was broken and she probably needed to go to the hospital. I remember thinking that it was cute that she thought a hospital visit was necessary for a fall. I told her that if she went to the hospital she would probably have to get a shot.
That shut her up......for a brief moment. Here lately, everything that happens to her is something that, "hurts really bad". It.Is.Driving.Me.Crazy. I am not insensitive to bumps and bruises that occur from being a kid. However, the whiny complaining really tries my patience. I CONSTANTLY hear things like, "Mom, I fell at school today and now my leg hurts really bad". Or, "Mom I bumped into the table and now my side hurts really bad". Yesterday she told my that she had gotten hurt and could she go up to the bonus room and get the crutches. CRUTCHES. Yes, crutches. For a fall that did not even leave the slightest bruise or break even the smallest amount of skin.
I thought years ago that this was a way for her to get attention. So in all my motherly, infinite wisdom, I NEVER play into the drama. I try to say something sensitive, yet at the same time keep her from playing into it even more. I usually say something like, "I'm sorry you got hurt, it will feel better soon". I NEVER gush or act anxious. I don't say things like, "Oh my goodness, that looks terrible". I don't nor have I ever babied her over her supposed injuries. I am afraid that would just make it worse.
Before anyone gets a chance to go there, don't worry. She gets PLENTY of attention around here. We spend time everyday talking about her day at school and upcoming events, or anything that might be bothering her with her friends. I always make it a point to listen when she talks. (Unless she interrupts, which she is prone to do on occasion)
The fact of the matter is that my child loves to be the center of attention. If we have company, she will jump up and down and raise her hand for her turn to speak. You will think she is ready to dazzle you with some really deep insight, or some thoughtful comment. Usually when I give her permission to talk, she will say something like, "May I go outside and see if so-and-so can play?". She raises her hand to talk because I taught her that it is rude interrupt when adults are talking. So MOST of the time, she won't interrupt. But she will stand there and do everything she can to get your attention.
The last fews days, I find myself really short on patience in dealing with her constant injury drama. I KNOW she is not really hurt. I am her mother, it's my job to know. Just like I KNOW when she is sick. Really sick. Not that, "my throat hurts a little, I think I need to stay home from school" sick. I would like to find a healthy way to stop her complaining.
I am not kidding, as I was typing she came up to me and told me something "still hurts really bad". If it were once in a while, it wouldn't bother me. I bet if I kept track, everyday she would tell me that something "hurts really bad". I am going to start tomorrow. I will keep my faithful readers informed of this study. In the meantime, if anyone knows of a healthy way I can break this habit, feel free to leave a comment.
I noticed a few blogs ago, that someone questioned another commenter's advice. Please do not this. I welcome all tips, especially since I am asking for them. I may not take all the advice, but I like to consider all of it, and I appreciate all of it. You may not agree with what others suggest, but please don't call them out on my blog. It's rude, so keep it to yourself.