I have been such a blog slacker. I am still working on (re) balancing my home life. I forgot that ANY change in your life is an adjustment. Not necessarily a bad adjustment, but still an adjustment. Keri has been on the outs with her best friend for several weeks. They went from spending all their free time together, to not speaking at all. I have to confess, I am at a loss on how to help her. She tells me how mean the other girl is being and that she called her stupid and a brat. Of course those of us dwelling in adult land realize that this is not the end of the world. Nine year old girls don't.
I am supposed to be full of motherly wisdom and advice yet I find myself not really knowing how to help her deal with the name calling and spiteful attitude. Unfortunately, there is not a chapter on name calling in my parenting handbook. You know, the one they all come with. I don't want her calling the other girl names. The protective part of me would love to tell Keri to smack the snot out of the girl, yet I realize that it would wrong. Yes, that would be wrong. I have told her that it is normal to have fights with your friends sometimes. I have told her to ignore the name calling. Is that the right thing to do? Am I making the situation worse? I don't know. Contrary to popular belief, I don't know everything. Keri is not a shy or timid child. As a matter of fact she can hold her own pretty well. I just don't want her to turn into a "mean girl".
I told her that maybe if she ignores the name calling, the girl will get bored with trying to get to her, and move on to something else. Sometimes I can't fix it. Sometimes I don't know what the solution is. If anyone has dealt with this type of nine year old drama, I am not too proud to accept some advice.