Friday, August 3, 2007

A Little Serious

As my new blog friends will soon discover, I have a very colorful family. I am the third out of seven children. I have three brothers and three sisters. My youngest brother has been struggling with drugs since he was about sixteen. Somehow a few years ago he managed to snag a wonderful woman in between binges. (Sometimes he will quit for a while but he always goes back to the drugs). Recently he completely went off the deep end and quit his job. To make money, he started selling the drugs he has been using. Currently he has several charges pending against him. They range from manufacturing, felony possession and a few other charges. MY SIL had not changed the locks on the door and he went into their apartment and destroyed all of the appliances.

It really makes me sad when I hear of these things. It's hard for me to understand how we all grew up in the same house and turned out so differently. All the rest of us suffered the same neglect and poverty that he did. Somehow he has never been able to break free from the past.

Drugs not only destroy your body, they destroy lives and hearts also. They don't just affect the users. My brother is not the only person in my life who has been affected by drugs. My ex husband is locked up on drug related charges(meth). He has spent more time in the last year locked up than he has been free. He hasn't seen our daughter since October of last year.

I don't let this get me down. I truly believe that someday or maybe even now, God will use these things in my life. Maybe to help someone else. I don't know. To my SIL. I love you and I am here to help however I can. If any of my new blog friends know anyone or hear of anyone in a similar situation, offer your moral support and friendship if you can. I pray that maybe my little blog can help someone else. If by nothing than making you realize that you are not the only one out there. To all single women. If you are dating someone who you think has a drug or alcohol problem, YOU CAN'T FIX HIM. You should immediately remove yourself from this situation. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. This is not a safe or healthy relationship. Take it from someone who learned the hard way!

1 comment:

MAT said...

That is so sad your making me cry.
You see it's not just single women
out there I was in a relationship
where I couldn't fix her.I fixed myself, but I couldn't fix her. I know just how you feel..